Love was not necessary as the basis for marriage. Jatakam or Kundali is drawn based on the placement of the stars and planets at the time of birth. The Vows are taken by the groom : 1. I say this not only because it is the obvious wish of any parent but mostly because you are the legitimate inheritors of Hindu Dharma and therefore have the potential to develop a combination of qualities so powerful that can help you to be, in modern parlance, awesome. That is what has sustained us for over 5000 years in good and bad times and that is what we believe will sustain our children. Yes, we have become partners.
The wife automatically took the surname of the husband …. A small feast is then held for the groom as the next steps in the marriage continue. Journal of Ecumenical Studies, 22 1 , 69—80. After some dancing and hugging, they are led to a specially designated place, where they are seated and served with snacks and drinks till the marriage begins officially and the bride is invited to the marriage altar mandap. Lord Krishna himself eloped with on a horse chariot.
She has to leave her parent's home to begin life anew in her her husband's house, amidst new people and new surroundings. Ayurvedic Medicine In Ayurveda, the Hindu medicinal system, turmeric is utilized extensively for its healing and health producing qualities. Every ritual has its own significance and cannot be done away with. The or the aphorisms of love talk at great length about Bhakti or divine love. He promises to keep her cherished as well as take care of the happiness of her and their children. Together they participate in the act of creation and bring forth all the beings as their progeny. Hindu Marriages in Modern Society Love marriages are on the increase, but there is still a lot of skepticism about them.
According to the Vedic tradition marriage is the means by which a man perpetuates himself through his progeny. Love marriage was also seen in historical Hindu literature and has been variously described by many names, such as Gandharva vivaha. In case of bride, her hands and feet are decorated with henna mehendi and turmeric. The primary witness of a Hindu marriage is the fire-deity or the Sacred Fire , in the presence of family and friends. After the post-marriage ceremony, the married couple being to leave the bride's home. This marks the beginning of the ceremony of giving away the bride.
This is no longer the practice in many progressive communities any more. Marriage was a serious duty towards the family and the community and there was little idea of individual interest. They promise to bear the responsibility of rearing a family together and do right by their children. Marriage has another dimension in Hindu religion, which is unique by itself. It follows hasta milap meeting of hands of the couple , but precedes saptapadi.
Every other man in my life will be secondary. That is our earned right. Hindu marriage is essentially an extension of the four aims purusharthas and the four stages ashramas of human life. Even if a married woman wants to transcend the limits of her 'maryada' set of rules that defines her dignity then the toe ring warns her not to defy her boundaries. The remaining four do not include vows and were considered aprashasta inappropriate.
. Bride's vow: Yes, I promise to participate and protect the cattle, our agriculture and business. In front is the band. It is a well-established maxim of Anglo Saxon jurisprudence that no person can be allowed to incapacitate himself. Hindu marriage can be defined as religions sacrament in which a man and woman are bound in permanent relationship for physical, social and spiritual purpose of dharma, procreation and sexual pleasure.
Ancient literature suggests the Hindu couple spent time with each other, but delayed the consummation for at least three nights following the wedding. Hinduism has at its core the Vedas, the spiritual scriptures that are the heart of India's culture. As marriage is said to be sacred it is irrevocable, other parties to the marriage can't dissolve it at will. Divorce was forbidden in almost all circumstances. How does the Hindu resolve this apparent contradiction? One of the important ceremonies associated with Hindu marriages is the handing over ceremony bidai , which bears a lot of sentimental significance for the girl's family. Among others, the following are some of their common duties and obligations.