Current Research in Social Psychology. Philia is the most general type of love in Scripture, encompassing love for fellow humans, care, respect, and compassion for people in need. A Triangular Theory of Love. Pragmatic love as a form of cooperation or symbiosis should not be considered as a negative type of attitude. Pragma may seem opposed to ludus, but the two can co-exist, with the one providing a counterpoint to the other. Philautia comes in two forms. And clever Greeks such as Aristotle realized there were two types.
The attitude can become disdainful and toxic if one sees the other as a burden. One example from real life can be found in the unfortunate , a mentally disturbed individual who attempted to assassinate , due to a misperception that this would prompt the actress to finally reciprocate his obsessive love. Psychologists say that the companionate type of relationship can arise after long years of an acquaintance or marriage. We urgently need to revive our capacity to care about strangers. Lovers and philosophers are all inspired to seek truth through the means of eros.
Four unique forms of love are found in the Bible. Healthy self-love is akin to , which is our and, above all, emotional appraisal of our own worth relative to that of others. The ancient Greeks were just as sophisticated in the way they talked about love, recognizing six different varieties. This is also used when referencing the love for one's country or a favorite sports team. First up: Fatuous Love, the love formed by combining the heat of passion and the steadfastness of commitment.
Following his resurrection, Jesus asked the if he loved him agape. A disadvantage is the possibility of the decay in attraction, and the danger of living in a fantasy world. We want to be generous, forgiving, and compassionate enough to love people unconditionally. It is based on an unbreakable commitment and an unconditional, selfless love, that is all giving. It is the closest to unconditional love. This type of love can vary in intensity and can also fade away, which is why relationships built only on this type of love tend not to last. This kind of self-love is defined by an inclination to put oneself before the greater good.
In its extreme, eros can resemble naïveté. Healthy self-love is akin to self-esteem, which is our cognitive and, above all, emotional appraisal of our own worth. In the Greek, there are a number of words which encompass the love of God. Example of Agape love: The person in your life that is always giving to others, and needing nothing in return. Ludus is that feeling we have when we go through the early stages of falling in love with someone, e. Lee describes eros as a passionate physical and emotional love of wanting to satisfy, create sexual contentment, security and aesthetic enjoyment for each other, it also includes creating sexual security for the other by striving to forsake options of sharing one's intimate and sexual self with outsiders. However, passion on its own leads to shallow love.
One is a sort of fake self-love, similar to arrogance or narcissism. They tend to select and reject partners based on what they perceive as desirable, compatible traits. The excitement of passion, the comfort of intimacy, and the team spirit of commitment are all needed to get to that ideal. Colours of Life: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving. There is in fact little evidence that the Greeks commonly used this precise term themselves, so it is best thought of as a modern update on the ancient Greek loves. The Bible's prohibition of necessarily limits erotic love to married couples. Anthropologist Franz Boas was the first European to point out that Eskimos had 50 words for snow though his initial estimate was a bit off the mark.
Taken individually, these components form the three simplest forms of love — passion alone brings infatuation, intimacy alone equals liking, and commitment alone means empty love. Companionate love is when there is intimacy and commitment, but not a whole lot of passion. Grayling commonly use the Latin word ludus to describe this form of love, which concerns the playful affection between children or casual lovers. Of all beautiful and good things, the best, most beautiful, and most dependable is truth or , which is why Plato called love not a god but a philosopher: He whom love touches not walks in darkness. On an energetic level, Ludus comes from the Sacral Chakra, which is all about seeking pleasure and having fun. Pragma seemed like it was droll and mundane but know i see the wisdom of learning to appreciate the essentials to a structured and well balanced life. A Comprehensive List of All Other Types of Love There are probably as many types of love in the world as there are types of people in the world.
Their study found that male students tend to be more ludic, whereas female students tend to be storgic and pragmatic. One event sees a group of teens take to the stage to discuss their undying love for Justin Bieber and One Direction. So, outside the Royal Festival Hall stands a glittery set of playground slides, aimed at creating a loving bond between families. Such couples will most likely be able to live a long life together and enjoy their marriage. In the best of cases, the partners in the pragma relationship agree to turn a blind eye—or even a sympathetic eye, as in the case of Simone de Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre, or Vita Sackville-West and Harold Nicholson.
It is also the title of a seminal collection of the writings and teachings of the great spiritual teachers of the Eastern Orthodox Church, from the 4th through the 15th centuries, published in 1792. Infatuation is about what the other person can do for you, you want the other person because they make you feel great. In It To Win It Love You guys are in it. Born into a family with a history of drug addiction, schizophrenia, and mental illness, Mateo Sol was taught about the plight of the human condition from a young age. Agape Agape is universal love, such as the love for strangers, nature, or God. Agape is given without expectation of anything in return. Family members hold each other in good esteem to the outside world.
But you still care for them, because it went deeper than that. When this type of love is expected in romantic relationships, the flow of energy changes and it becomes very ego driven. Love Catalyst: Astral Emotion 5. Ludus can also relate to the love shared among participants of playful experiences like sport or games. Agape is what some call spiritual love. In the best of cases, the partners in the pragma relationship agree to turn a blind eye or even, as in the case of Simone de Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre, a sympathetic eye. Ludus relationships are casual, undemanding, and uncomplicated but, for all that, can be very long-lasting.